The Morning Booth

Today, I came acrossed this video on my friends blog that was written by a couple who lost their twin girls shortly after birth last summer.
I realize that there are thousands, if not millions, of people in the world currently grieving.
Grieving is very personal (I don't want to hear one more person tell me, or my family to "Just get over it" or "You need to move forward").
But this video has a powerful truth - that in the midst of grieving, one of the most basic needs that every person has is to feel loved and supported.
Even if we are unable to reach out, or to respond back at the moment.
Even if silently, or from afar.
Because I could have never imagined until the year my dad passed, what a lonely place grieving can be.
I have lost grandmas, aunts, uncles who were very dear to me and I was certain I had walked the path of grief and knew it's corners and turns.
Intimately knew the potholes and divots that would trip one up.
But nothing has affected me the way my dad's death did.
The potholes seemed to have expanded, and the divots have multiplied.
Even when I think it is beginning to lighten, that things are beginning to feel better, it seeps back in and reminds me of it's prescence. If you are one of the many who I was spiteful too, didn't confide knowing that I should have, didnt return calls or emails, I do apologize and please don't take it personal.
I am working my way through my own Mourning Booth.


This video just rang so true to me as I watched it, that I had to share it. Before going through my own mourning, I'm pretty sure I didn't truly understand how to mourn with those who mourn. I'm still learning. But, watching this just made me that much more grateful for the people in my life who haven't given up on me, who haven't gotten impatient with my grieving, who have stayed by my side even if they haven't known what to say. They have been there in every way, mourning with me and offering healing comfort simply by their presence through this dark, dark valley. I don't know how I would have survived the worst parts of the valley without their love and support. If you don't know how to mourn with someone, err on the side of being like the waitress. Seriously, my heart filled with warmth just watching that part. It is a holy response.
Healing can come in miraculous ways just by being present in someone's life.

Check it out!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vt8nSAqkl84